Saying Thank You

Developing the habit of saying thank you is a fundamental skill that should rank right up there with teaching your kids how to potty or how to ride a bicycle or drive a car.

I’m likely one of the few die hards left that still believe in the value of writing hard copy thank you notes.  I keep 2 to 3 boxes on hand in my office.    Additionally, we have a household rule that you cannot enjoy the birthday presents given until the thank you notes are in the mailbox.  My son often screams, “why can’t I send an email?”    My typical response is the person giving you this gift, took time out of their day, most likely left work early to mail this gift to you; the least you can do is write a thank you note in return.

So often, networks are broken,  repeat business dissipates and relationships aren’t maintained because we fail to offer our appreciation and gratitude.   Last week, I saw an antique car on the road that reminded me of the car my cousin’s father drove us to high school in every day.  The car was an old Pacer Model and immediately drew out  feelings and memories of him picking me up every morning,  going out of his way to encourage me to excel in school and providing the cool option of not having to ride the bus.

I pulled over at that exact moment, called him and said thank you!  It made him feel good, brought so many laughs and it deepened my appreciation for what leaders do.  We help even when it’s not required and always have a heart of gratitude and appreciation towards others.

Is there some one you need to thank today?  You will be amazed at how embracing the diligence of saying thank you will move you closer to your life’s purposes and goals.  Someone will remember your heart of gratitude when you need an opportunity door or two opened on your behalf.





  1. Natasha Stevens Said,

    September 2, 2009 @ 8:01 am

    I think this is awesome!! It is so true, even for “strangers” we meet in passing at the bank, or grocery store who hold open the door, just so we can slip in out of the rain, just in time. A “thank you” spoken to them at that moment, looking them in their eyes, can do wonders-for both parties involved.

    And YES- handwritten thank you notes are MUCH BETTER than email ones! They truly let the person know you are grateful!

    Thanks for sharing this- I need your address now. :)

  2. Sheila L. Anderson Said,

    September 2, 2009 @ 12:57 pm


    Once again, I appreciated your post. I believe in sending thank you notes and “how I really appreciate” you moments. I have tried to make a habit of remembering all the people who played an important role in my life. Without your Aunt Betty and a few others in the community, I know I would not have some of the qualities I have now. May God continue to richly bless you with the gift of encouragment.

  3. Mike Troy Gagum Said,

    December 20, 2009 @ 2:41 pm

    Leadership coaching should be implimented in college. I had the opportunity to have a executive coach and my career path was on the right track…..Barbara, keep coaching

    Your freind,

    Mike Troy Gagum
    Principal of Gagum & Gagum LLC

  4. Barbara McAllister Said,

    December 20, 2009 @ 3:18 pm

    @Natasha – so very true. appreciation and giving thanks is good under all circumstances
    @Sheila -thank you and stay encouraged. We owe a huge debt to the elderly in our community and I know they would be pleased seeing us pay it forward.
    @Troy – agree. undergrad would be a great place for leadership coaching and training. Most of that seems to begin in grad school. That feels a little late.

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